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The saddest Valentine's Day ever

My beloved husband Paul died last night.

He had several falls at home in the last months and was taken to Villeneuve-Saint-Georges departement hospital for stitches each time. Last time the surgeon found he had a weak heart and had him transferred at Dupuytren hospital in Draveil, geriatrics service. First thing they put him to bed with bars which he couldn't stand, so he tried to get out of bed and had another fall, far more serious than the ones at home, his poor face was all black and blue. Then the service physician decided our family's doctor treatment was "unadapted"- it kept him alive and well enough for years -and decided to change it. The new treatment killed him in one week.

I visited him each day since he was transferred and stayed with him the whole afternoons. The day before (Monday) he looked a little better but yesterday he was totally absent and with some difficulties to breath. To my call they put him to bed (they insisted in keeping him bound in an armchair, while at home he was usually sleeping in his bed or coming to sit from his own will in his armchair). His blood pressure was dangerously low but still I had some hope, and was determined to ask them to send him back home in the coming days. Why didn't I ask that from the first day? Those damn hospital physicians are so sure of themselves and convincing. I know they save thousands of people, but old ones are just an annoyance, aren't they? All their exams just confirmed our family doctor's evaluation.

Paul was 95. He even couldn't watch at the Valentine's card I had made for him.

NB- thanks to LJ friends who sent me virtual gifts for Valentine's Day, I love all of you sweeties.

Comments

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czeri
15th Feb, 2012 08:06 (UTC)
OMG, I'm so sorry. :big hug:
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 12:09 (UTC)
Thank you czeri.
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kanld
15th Feb, 2012 12:09 (UTC)
Thank you siberian-skys.
tarlanx
15th Feb, 2012 09:52 (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss {{HUGS}}
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 12:10 (UTC)
Thank you very much Sandra.
aqualegia
15th Feb, 2012 09:54 (UTC)
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 12:10 (UTC)
Thanks a lot Lynda, and for your e-mail too <3
redblack32
15th Feb, 2012 11:31 (UTC)
I'm very sorry.

Edited at 2012-02-15 11:33 (UTC)
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 12:11 (UTC)
Thank you redblack.
natasja92
15th Feb, 2012 14:18 (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss *hugs*
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 20:13 (UTC)
Thank you natasja.
polly_b
15th Feb, 2012 14:40 (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss. **hugs**
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 20:14 (UTC)
Thank you Polly. I'm glad to hear from you, despite the circumstances.
polly_b
15th Feb, 2012 21:15 (UTC)
I wish I could spare you this pain. Sending you thoughts of love and strength, my friend.
mattmel
15th Feb, 2012 16:12 (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss. *hug*
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 20:14 (UTC)
Thank you my dear Melanie.
codyne
15th Feb, 2012 16:21 (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugs*
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 20:14 (UTC)
Thank you Cody.
syredronning
15th Feb, 2012 19:18 (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss :-(
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 20:15 (UTC)
Thank you syredronning.
griva_x
15th Feb, 2012 19:19 (UTC)
Oh...this is so sad... I never know what to say on such occasions... But then 95 year, this is such a long, and I am sure - a LOVING life.

(HUGS you tight)
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 20:16 (UTC)
Thanks a lot my dear Olga. Yes, he had a good life, or so I hope I helped to.
bardsmaid
15th Feb, 2012 20:14 (UTC)
Such sad news! I've been thinking about you a lot recently, and perhaps this is why. Please know you're in my thoughts... as is Paul. {{hugs}}
kanld
15th Feb, 2012 20:17 (UTC)
Thank you very much Susan. Thinking of you too. When I feel better I'll go have a look at your site, always so beautiful pictures...
sinfulslasher
15th Feb, 2012 22:47 (UTC)
I am so, so sorry, Kandi!!! Biggest hugs!!! :(
kanld
16th Feb, 2012 08:22 (UTC)
Thanks a lot, sinful, I need the hugs, believe me. Today I'm in administrative formalities. Already spent 1/2 an hour on phone with hospitalS to find his papers back...
wolfens
16th Feb, 2012 12:04 (UTC)
so so sorry for your loss *hugs*
kanld
16th Feb, 2012 14:11 (UTC)
Thank you very much Laura.
ladymidath
18th Feb, 2012 10:23 (UTC)
I am so very sorry for your loss. HUGS
My condolences and know that you are in my heart and in my thoughts.
kanld
20th Feb, 2012 22:47 (UTC)
Thank you MyLady for your good thoughts and your sweet mail.
brigittchen
19th Feb, 2012 01:25 (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss, Kand! This is so sad! Let me give you a huge!!
kanld
20th Feb, 2012 22:48 (UTC)
Thank you very much for your kindness Brigitt, that's good to have such faithful friends in those times.
brigittchen
20th Feb, 2012 23:26 (UTC)
He was 95, that was a very long time! And he had you as a wife - and buddy! His life was full of memories, a good life. So - look foorward!
Many kisses!!!
kanld
21st Feb, 2012 13:47 (UTC)
You're quite right, sweetie. You're giving me courage. I'll try!

Edited at 2012-02-21 13:47 (UTC)
mf_luder_xf
21st Feb, 2012 02:40 (UTC)
I'm so late in seeing this, but I want you to know, my thoughts are with you. I'm sorry to hear this sad news.

*hugs tight*
kanld
21st Feb, 2012 13:45 (UTC)
Thank you very much mf, that's very kind of you. No matter the time, knowing you're thinking of me and my darling Paul counts a lot. I know you'll all be with me tomorrow to say good bye <3
marciaelena
10th Mar, 2012 18:01 (UTC)
Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. I'm only now seeing this, I haven't really been following LJ lately. I hope you're doing okay.

((((((tight hugs))))))
inlaterdays
27th Sep, 2012 21:48 (UTC)
I've only just read this. I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope you are all right; I notice you haven't posted for a few months.

A very belated but very sincere *BIG HUG*
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