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Formal Apology

As my dear Bibi (that's biani of course) seems to have problems with our spanking-queen Gaby, which is a pity because I enjoy both of them, I suggest that next time somebody complains for whatever reason you use this ready-to-made form:

I don't want to choose between you but what would we become, really, without our special correspondent in Nickland? Huh? In legal matters, immediately deleting an incriminated link is usually sufficient and considered courteous enough. This rule should apply for friendly relations, shouldn't it? Peace and Love, girls!


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27th May, 2008 20:52 (UTC)
To be perfectly honest, I'm a bit confused right now.

I had no idea that my private disagreement with Bianca has obviously been made public in some way.

So, I'd really like to know what exactly you mean here. If I understand you correctly, you'd like me to apologize, is that right? I'm sorry, Kand, but I honestly don't see any reason for that.

But rest assured that I would never make you choose between two friends. What kind of person would I be then? I hope you know that. :)
28th May, 2008 09:54 (UTC)

My dear Gaby, from Bianca's post I understood *you* were the one who felt offended, so I suggested - with humour I hope - that *she* made some kind of excuse to you if she thought she had to.

Now if *you* came to think, just for one split second, that you could be expected somehow to ask for some forgiveness, perhaps this throws a new light on what you feel inside, maybe unconsciously? Stuff in the eye of the beholder, you know, revealing lapsus and all this sort of thing.

I'm just suggesting two of my Netfriends have a fresh look at this quarrel about what sounds like a detail to me. We've lost several persons in the fandom recently, not by indifference, but by death. Please think before using harsh words and negative thoughts. Virtual friendship is all the more flimsy because of the absence of direct, in the flesh contact.

I'm sorry for interfering, forgive the patronizing tone; I'll just stop now and "be back to my dear studies" as we Froggies say :o)
28th May, 2008 10:18 (UTC)
Well, since Bianca has posted a locked entry, I don't know what she claims has happened. All I know is that she dragged something private into public, and that leaves a bad taste in my mouth. *shrugs*

I still see no reason at all (consciously or not) to apologize because I've done nothing wrong. The only reason why I thought you might suggest that I apologize was that maybe Bianca had said something to the effect (see above, I don't know what she said since her post is locked). It wasn't clear to me if you meant Bianca or me, and since your post was in reaction to her entry, I took a wild guess and assumed you meant I should be the one to apologize. If I jumped to the wrong conclusion, I'm sorry, it just read like that to me.

To be perfectly honest, some of the stuff she said did offend me and would offend any other author, but I don't expect her to apologize. I don't expect anything from her.

And since I never considered us to be friends, I don't see any reason to try and salvage anything. The disagreement started with a simple request and turned into much more. This wasn't just about "a detail", Kandi. I always think before I say something, which is why I don't regret a single word I said.

This matter is closed, as far as I'm concerned. I'm too busy with important stuff (fanfic included) that I waste my time on something like this. :)
27th May, 2008 23:35 (UTC)
I like that link! :)

I LOVE your kitty icon!! Is that your cat? He's gorgeous!
28th May, 2008 10:00 (UTC)
Nope, it's not my cat, though Vanille looks like that - at least she did when she was young, she's 19 now!
Here she is (in my lap):
29th May, 2008 23:42 (UTC)
Ahh, she's a cutie! Nineteen, wow! That's awesome! :)
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